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READING
Rule of St. Benedict
“Keep death daily before your eyes.”
SCRIPTURE
Psalm 90: 12
“So teach us to number our days that we may grow in wisdom.”
WORDS OF HOPE
I’m pretty sure that I have thought about death more than most folks. Whether it’s because my mother nearly died while pregnant with my youngest brother or because my beloved Joyce died so quickly and unexpectedly from Stage IV lung cancer, or whether it’s simply a matter of constitution—the way I am fearfully and wonderfully made, who knows. But it’s true. So, it’s no wonder that I gravitated to a session of the Contemplatives’ Summit called “How to Give Your Death Away: The Final Act of Generosity” with the renown Catholic priest and theologian Ronald Rolheiser as speaker.
Rolheiser acknowledges how very hard it is for us to relinquish our hold on this life and distinguishes between resignation and handing ourselves over, as Jesus did in his last days on earth. He urges that we give ourselves over in love—or wait until nature requires it of us, but suggests that we offer it voluntarily, with grace, leaving without bitterness.
Two of the qualities which help us do this are gratitude and forgiveness. Gratitude is the easier and many of us have long practiced this virtue. We realize that all is a gift—life is a gift, our very breath is a gift. And as writer Morris West claims, at 75 we need only 3 phrases: Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Forgiveness is harder. From the time we are children until late in life, we accrue wounds of all levels of pain and depth. We must turn toward forgiveness and healing because “anything that isn’t grieved turns to hardness and anger.” Grief turns us soft and we become wounded healers. BUT Rollheiser argues that often even our spiritual teachers press us to let go too fast, not honoring the difficulty of the process.
Finally, as we age, we need to bless others, especially the young. Blessing consists of several elements: noticing the young, admiring who they are and the gifts they bring, and giving something of ourselves to them. Rollheiser addresses the need to bless both young women and men, but goes on to say that many men have never been blessed by their fathers. This was true for Daniel Berrigan, who describes his father as a “bastard”—and attributes his fierce resistance to any kind of authority to it. The power of self-sacrificial male blessing is revealed in Jan ValJean’s achingly beautiful prayer for Marius’ life in “God on High” from Les Miserables .
One does not need to be in the winter of their lives to seek to live out these lessons. In fact, the earlier we begin the practices, the less resistance we will have to relinquishing the hold.
PRAYER
Holy God, You have created us and nurtured us in love all of our lives. May we offer ourselves back to you in a generous and loving letting go. Amen.
DEVOTION AUTHOR
Dr. Pat Saxon
Cathedral of Hope
Proclaiming Christ Through Faith, Hope and Love
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