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“All the lonely people. Where do they all come from?
All the lonely people. Where do they all belong?"
Paul McCartney, John Lennon, George Harrison
SCRIPTURE
Psalm 25:16
Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.
WORDS OF HOPE
Dr. Vivek Murthy, U.S. Surgeon General, has declared an epidemic of loneliness in our country. The causal factors—which are multifold—have grown over the last decades to the point where one in two people today experience “measurable levels” of this painful condition. Its invisibility, though, is part of what makes it so insidious. The dark shadow in which it hides allows our mental, physical and collective well-being to suffer grave consequences (Murthy).
“When people are socially disconnected, their risk of anxiety and depression increases. So does their risk of heart disease (29 percent), dementia (50 percent), and stroke (32 percent). The increased risk of premature death associated with social disconnection is comparable to smoking daily — and may be even greater than the risk associated with obesity.” These are troubling realities.
Compounding the ache of disconnection is the sense of shame we often feel in acknowledging our loneliness—as if there’s something wrong with us or we’re just not likeable, valuable people. Murthy recounts an intense period of his own loneliness after his first appointment as Surgeon General had ended. After a time of collaborating with colleagues about important matters and traveling extensively, loneliness overtook him—in part because he had neglected his friends and relatives while caught up in the whirl of energy and responsibilities with his role.
Fortunately, he did reach out and his loved ones created a loving and therapeutic web of connection, with regular contact, to lift him up. Now, in his second tenure, he sees how debilitating and dangerous loneliness can be and has proposed a national strategy to alleviate this health crisis.
Murthy’s story touched my own. Though by nature, I love my solitude and contemplative time and have dear friends, I recently experienced an extended bout with loneliness. I too was reluctant to share it—partly because of the shame and partly because of my mental lists of all I had to be grateful for and why I should not be lonely. I knew, though, that withdrawing further was not healthy, so I reached out to a trusted friend and shared where I was. Even then, I can still hear the way I hurried the telling as well as the attempts to minimize my feelings.
I encourage you to read Murthy’s story, his discerning assessment of our condition, and his multi-point plan for addressing this epidemic.
As individuals and as a faith community, we can respond to this crisis. Think about someone you know whom you haven’t seen or heard from in a while. Reach out—not just via email or social media contact. Call and hear their voice and let them hear yours. Plan a visit or meet up for coffee or a meal or a walk. Caring contact and nature are holy balms.
We can also make even our “casual” contacts with others more meaningful by offering our full presence and attention. Listening matters.
Finally, encourage someone who is disconnected to come to church with you or meet you to make blessing bags or volunteer at BACH. Serving others lifts us out of ourselves.
PRAYER
God, sometimes we are truly desperate for you—and for human presence. May your Spirit come to us in our need and send us those who will companion us on the way. Amen.
DEVOTION AUTHOR
Dr. Pat Saxon
Cathedral of Hope
Proclaiming Christ Through Faith, Hope and Love
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