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Come back now, even if you call me out.
You might be angry now, of course you are.
I'm scared too, didn't mean to take it out on you.
I know I always do, you're the strongest person in the room.
Turn back time, help me to rewind, and we can
Find ourselves again.
Writers: Brandi Carlile, Dave Cobb, Timothy Hanseroth, Phillip Hanseroth
WORDS OF HOPE
So many of us have short fuses these days. Over the past years, we have been stretched to the limits by illness and loss, overwork, assaults on our rights, relationships torn by partisan division, rulings that have threatened living with authenticity and integrity—and so much more. We fly off the handle, speak (or shout) harsh words—often hurting those we care most about. And afterwards too often we go silent, go underground to nurse our wounds, hunkering down behind our pride, and don’t repair the breach.
Brandi Carlile’s “Right on Time,” written during the pandemic, addresses such a rupture. * The first lines immediately acknowledge her fault—that she said or did something that took whatever was brewing inside her out on a person she cares deeply about. She acknowledges, as well, the “right” of the other person to be angry over the hurt, as well as her own fear about the ongoing pandemic (likely), the separation, and what’s needed for repair. Her call for the beloved to “come back now”—in the face of the breach and the hurt and anger-- is compelling. And the opening lines, taken together, stand as a model of the first stages of “finding themselves again.”
Marilyn Pagan-Banks, in a recent UCC devotion, speaks into our difficulty with forgiveness: “It truly is hard to forget a harm done, a hurt caused, a promise broken. Even after and if a relationship seems to have been restored, the memories and scars do not fully disappear.
Forgiving but holding on, recalling the injury over and over with no intent of truly moving forward in reconciliation, is not restorative. It takes work and the desire to be in right relationship to not allow someone’s past mistakes to get in the way of our healing and the possibilities that come with it.”
Carlile’s song suggests she’s on the right track toward renewal. She even seems to believe that the event was “right on time,” a suggestion of something important, even grace-filled, evolving in and through the breaking, the process of forgiveness, and the reconciliation.
Like the Japanese Kintsugi bowls, this restorative process joins together that which was broken, while showcasing the breaks and honoring the golden repair. May it be so in our own relationship healing.
PRAYER
Kintsugi Master, it is only by your Grace that we are made whole. In heart-felt contrition, help us move beyond self-righteousness and pride over harm done to redeeming our precious scars. Amen.
DEVOTION AUTHOR
Dr. Pat Saxon
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWaWSfmCXxw
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