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My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
Today is Words With Friends Day. What do you think about when you hear the phrase, “words with friends?” Though the actual reference of today’s recognition comes from the popular online Scrabble-like game that became popular during the last decade, many other images come to mind for me when I hear these words. The old-school idea of words with friends was passing notes at school, hoping that your heartfelt words were not intercepted by “the wrong person” or, worse yet, a teacher. Then there were telephone conversations while tethered to the kitchen wall, and, perhaps most often, real face to face conversations over lunch or during a walk through the park. With the digital age, most of these means of authentic communication have been replaced by abbreviations and emoji-laden text messages, memes, and interactive games. When it comes to creating, maintaining, and nurturing friendships, both ways have a place. Sending a quick text message or a meme to cheer a friend or let them know you are thinking about them can be an amazing pick-me-up. But, that caring also needs to be accompanied by face-to-face real “words with friends.”
The older I get, the more I realize that true friends are the greatest blessing we can receive. Cultivating, feeding, and caring for those friendships is hard work. And that work requires 24/7 attention. Friendship is great when it is all about fun and games – sharing a drink, going to a movie together, hanging out at the pool. The true essence of a friendship, however, reveals itself when a friend is hurting or sick or in some way disappoints us. As is the case with any human relationship, we discover what a friendship is made of when the going gets tough. Are you willing to drop what you are doing and spend time with a friend who calls and says they are lonely? Are you willing to go to the doctor with your friend to be a second set of ears as they receive the protocol for a recent cancer diagnosis or hold a friend’s hand as they say good-bye to a beloved pet…even when these situations are difficult places for you to be? Will you offer your friend money for food, rent, utility bills, medicine, a warm cup of coffee when they fall on hard financial times even if it means you might have to penny pinch? How we respond during the hard moments of friendship is the real testament to our commitment to that relationship.
Yes, friendships can be unhealthy, requiring careful boundary-keeping; that is not what I’m referring to here. I’m talking about those relationships that are near and dear to us. Those that if they were to dissolve would leave a great void in our world. Those relationships that we would do “anything for” even when, or especially when, that means self-sacrifice.
Think about your circle of friends. What does “words with friends” look like between you? Are you willing, as Jesus says, to love your friends enough to lay down a piece of your own life for them? There is no question that that is a big scary question!
Loving God who shows us what true friendship feels like, teach me and help me to be the person whom others will trust to be a friend in joy and sadness, contentment and fear, abundance and need. Amen
Kris Baker
Order of St. Francis and St. Clare
Cathedral of Hope
Proclaiming Christ Through Faith, Hope and Love
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